May 14th 2010

Good Morning Everyone. Coffee is on, grab a cup. Well, I am a bachelor until monday. My wife went on a "Girls" weekend with my our 3 daughters and left me and the dog to fend for ourselves. So I guess it will be golf, golf, and more golf. Have a good weekend everyone.

bob2701 wrote:Good Morning Everyone. Coffee is on, grab a cup. Well, I am a bachelor until monday. My wife went on a "Girls" weekend with my our 3 daughters and left me and the dog to fend for ourselves. So I guess it will be golf, golf, and more golf. Have a good weekend everyone.

Oh now there is a sacrifice... GOLF!!!! wow really hard weekend fending for yourself!! LOL... yeah.. but you'll have a good "few days off" I am sure. I wish i could just go away like that. Maybe when i get up enough nerve i'll start taking my son places for weekends. We'll see, that time is a long ways off right now... finances won't allow it at the moment.

Well this is going to be an interesting weekend. I have to work this weekend and i just took the ex to the hospital with a gall bladder attack and he's now sitting in a room feeling sorry for himself. Sigh.. debating whether to call in sick and keep him company or just go on life as the "new usual" and just keep tabs on him. What do you guys think I should do? I am not trying to be cold about it as i do care at least that much. He wants me to bring him all sorts of stuff to include his pillow...huh, I have been in the hospital 4 times since 2005 and each time he flat out refused to bring me my pillow and some things i would ask for. He wants me to bring our son up too.. to that i said no. He, for one is too young, and two, there are infected people up on the floor.. he doesn't need exposure to that and three.. i never even got so much as a picture of liam when i was int eh hospital unless i brought them with me. I told my ex the recognize these inequalities.. he started getting nasty and said "fine get even with me." I said i would bring him his things, but that this wasn't about getting even. It was about making him recognize adn realize what he put me through each time i was traumatized by a hospital admission and he decided that my needs weren't worthy enough to meet. (ie. wanting my own pillow, etc.) all he can do is ever think about himself.. never the other side. I hope he sees this today now that the shoe is on the other foot finally. So that's the newest poop!

Hoep everyone else is having a good day. I think i will opt for that beer now... maybe a glas of wine instead... not much of a beer drinker myself.

Good morning everyone, thanks for the coffee Bob it hit the spot. Vamps I wouldn't take any time off for him personally hell I wouldn't even keep tabs on him, but thats just me. As far as I would be concerned the relationship is over make a clean break no need to make it harder than it has to be. Sure if you want to bring him a few things to make his stay a little easier than by all means do so, but I wouldn't include myself in his situation.

Steve I do so quite agree on your comments but I think Vampy being a nurse has a heart and it will be "tres dificile" for her-she comes across in her posts as a warm and caring soul. I still think she should do what you say tho.

smduff wrote:Good morning everyone, thanks for the coffee Bob it hit the spot. Vamps I wouldn't take any time off for him personally hell I wouldn't even keep tabs on him, but thats just me. As far as I would be concerned the relationship is over make a clean break no need to make it harder than it has to be. Sure if you want to bring him a few things to make his stay a little easier than by all means do so, but I wouldn't include myself in his situation.

Thank you... i will do just as you said too. He had me email his mileage from his route to his boss and ask for sick time on his behalf.... got a good look at his email, his network (FB), and his yahoo all of which he had wide open so it wasn't like i had to break into anything! And I wasn't trying either!! It was all just there in open panes on his desktop! OMG!!!! Lots of Lady friends i never knew he had. His yahoo is something like (lonely guy) and all his connections are females, and one girl he's been calling apparently according to his email. OMG!!!!! I saw nothing romantic, but when i went to get underwear and socks for him.. i found something and took a picture of the box! It's unopened but what does he need with them if he's pining for me?????? Holy Shit! I wonder if he's been lying to me even still.. all this stuff with missing me and so on. OMG!!!! OMG!!! OMG!!! Well I guess it is a good thing I have to work tonight. I am too wound up for anything else! :Angry: I also found my separation agreement draft he'd been holding hostage and so i will finish it and submit it very soon!!! I feel like the wind has just been knocked out of me! :pale:

oshimaida wrote:Steve I do so quite agree on your comments but I think Vampy being a nurse has a heart and it will be "tres dificile" for her-she comes across in her posts as a warm and caring soul. I still think she should do what you say tho.

Thank You... I hope that i am as such. I try to be. It is in my nature I hope. And Yes, You are right it is difficult for me to shut off my heart. I still care about what happens to the A-hole. But well I got a good dose not more than a half hour ago of his surreptitious side. He already made me cry today while being admitted to the hospital because i am the one divorcing him as he was vicious enough to point out in front of the admitting lady in that kind of tone. I had to drive him there adn it is my health insurance that covers him still. He tried to make me leave without me finding out where they were putting him because he was upset that i pointed out the things that upset me every time i was hospitalized. I should have just left his sorry self there at that moment... then he appologized to me and started crying... Dr.Jeckyll and Mr.Hyde.. this is how it is. Just this fast. And he wonders why I am doing this?

Thank you though... I like to think i have a good heart. :oops: I find no value in treating him as badly as he treated me. I just wish i could make him see what it was he had done to me all these years. Thank you for you very kind words. :flower:

Howdy folks what a lazy day i have had... took the dog for a grooming and then went and picked him up. A great day!
Going to get into a Beer shortly as the weather is beautiful this afternoon and should be all weekend.

Vampy don't be rude or mean to him just ignore him and get on with the life that you and Liam have a head of you... Build a life for the 2 of you and only include him when you legally need too. Don't be mean about it like he would probably do, just let him go and don't let him see you cry!

Ok.. gotta get ready for work.. i havet o work all weekend... Gasp! I hate it, but a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do! Lots of babies being born early lately!!! Sigh... we are beyond capcity in my unit! Someone did the baby dance! :suspect: See everyone in the morning!